What Comes Next

“And what am I going to find if get through this?”

“I don’t know – but won’t it be interesting to find out?”

Arguably one of my favorite exchanges from one of my favorite stories (thank you Korra), that question has been the cornerstone of my life over the last few years.

And yes, it has certainly been interesting to find out.

If 2024 was a year of exploration and curiosity, then 2025 became a year of harvesting and hard work. I traveled across Asia and Europe, completed my first year of grad school, renovated my apartment, launched and grew Outlast, and received a major promotion. Somehow, I managed to still prioritize my friendships and even make new ones too.   

In a recent therapy session, something came up. Despite all that momentum, I wasn’t feeling satisfied. My therapist smiled and told me I was, “exactly where I was supposed to be.” He was right, of course, but why did the question come up at all?

I have a few theories. Being queer today carries an unspoken pressure to constantly expand your life. If you’re like me, then you know that being queer in New York City amplifies this tremendously. There is always a sense that you should be achieving more, earning more, and meeting more, and when you do, it still isn’t enough. What happens when we check those boxes? What comes next?

I think 2026 might be about learning to be still in enjoyment and gratitude. Sometimes more isn’t necessary. Sometimes more isn’t helpful. Sometimes we just need to be.

So what did I find out on my journey?

Personal growth matters. Building a life you’re proud of is wonderful. But there is no greater blessing than intimacy, vulnerability and love across your relationships. I’m grateful to have those in abundance. Now, it feels like time to enjoy them.

Cheers to a new year.